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Life is being unready
Stop waiting for the right time
We’ve all got things we secretly want to do. You feel them stirring on that rainy Sunday afternoon or dull Monday lunchtime. They are the thoughts fleetingly but frequently on your mind. If only you were there instead of here.
Maybe you’d love to live by the sea, travel for a year or relocate to Japan. You want to write a book, start a company or a family, run a marathon, retrain as a chef and buy a boat. Maybe it’s all of these.
What do we do with all these hopes?
Sometimes we can’t even say them out loud. That’s how good we are at dismissing our own wants. I can’t do it now, we think, because I have to wait until I have more money and time.
We wait for permission or for someone else to do it first.
We tie our hopes into meeting the right person who will want the same things and help our dreams become real. We make a bucket list. We’ll get to it one day but for now, we are waiting. Until we’re ready.
Take risks
Humans are risk averse. We don’t want to gamble what we have in case it results in an overall loss. Our waiting is a form of protection. Maybe the hopes will go away if we resist them long enough. We’ll stay safe. We’ll realise they weren’t…
